28 Apr Strong Man. Wrong Woman.
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A STRONG MAN AND THE WRONG WOMAN
Many people have their favorite Bible stories. I have mine. The story of Samson and Delilah is not one of them. Sure, Samson, the strongest man in the world at that time, does some incredible things, but by the end of the story he ends up getting blinded, jailed and killed. It has a tragic ending. His downfall is unfortunately tied to a woman. Now, don’t get me wrong. This isn’t meant to bash women by any means on any level. One of the best things that can happen to a man is the right woman. But, one of the worst things that can happen to man is the wrong woman. The right woman can be invaluable. The wrong one can be lethal.
Erykah Badu has a song called “Fall in Love (Your Funeral).” This verse is cold blooded scary:
You better go back the way you came
If you stay
Have Yo s— rearranged
You better get on away from here
You gone see
It’s gone be
Some slow sangin and flower bringing
If my burglar alarm starts ringing
She is warning the guy. “Stay away from me. I am not the one”. It would have been great if Delilah had a warning label. Sampson wasn’t so fortunate. Delilah was instrumental in getting him destroyed. What she did can serve as caution signs for men to look for as they are deciding what woman to connect with as a partner.
SHE WAS OPEN TO HURTING HER MAN FOR THE RIGHT PRICE
Most women don’t have a price. A few do. Men have to be careful. When a woman is with you because of what you can do for her rather than what you all can do with each other and for each other then you always have to worry that someone can come along and offer her more. Providing for your wife and children is your responsibility and you should do that on the highest level you possibly can afford while using sound financial principles. It is important to give your wife special gifts like jewelry, vacations, etc. Nevertheless, you do not want to be in a relationship where you constantly have to make more, do more and be more so you can offer her more than the next guy. Again, most women are not like this, but you do not want to be the one Sampson who finds the one Delilah.
SHE CANNOT BE TRUSTED WITH HIS SECRETS
In the story she commits relationship treason. She is insisting that he divulge the secret to the source of his strength to her so she can betray his confidence to his enemies. Trust is the hallmark of a relationship. Partners need to be able to trust each other completely. Each partner should provide a safe place for the other to be vulnerable. This is especially critical for a man. A strong man does not have many safe places to share his secrets. A man should be able to be vulnerable with his woman. What he shares with her should not come back to hurt him or haunt him. Man! Who wants to be with a woman you have to consistently protect yourself from regardless of what else she brings to the table? Keeping yourself safe from the one closest to you would have to be emotionally exhausting.
SHE USES HIS LOVE FOR HER AGAINST HIM
Everyone has their pet peeves. I am not a fan of requests that begin with the phrase, “If you love me”. That phrase seems so manipulative. In the story Sampson loved his wife. She used that love against him. Love should not be a weapon. A man should desire to please the lady in his life. She should be able to expect that he will do whatever is in his power to keep her happy with him and the relationship. He, on the other hand, should know that she has the same commitment to him. If she is manipulative she’s committed to herself alone and not to him. Manipulation is so egregious because it causes a person to be used as a weapon against himself. Delilah used Sampson’s love for her as her tool to get what she wanted knowing it was to his detriment. Sampson was simply unsafe with her. She was the wrong woman.
A FINAL THOUGHT
I want to reiterate that I do not believe there are that many women out there who fit the profile of Delilah. I know some great and not so great people of both genders. I know a woman may be reading this and compiling her laundry list of warnings concerning the wrong man. I get it. But, men also need to be warned of the effect the wrong woman can have. Men unfortunately tend to let a woman’s looks, sensuality and sexuality rule is decision making and at times overrule rational thinking and cause us to overlook obvious signs of danger. There is a pop song lyric, “Sweet dream or beautiful nightmare”. Strong man, just beware.
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